3/31 - New perspectives of gyaru (Fashion and mind side)

MONDAYYY!! I have some time before I head out for bingo and I wanted to type up a blog post of a few things i've been going through this past week. Aside from omg ... finally ordering circle lenses. This is just mostly a yap session about some personal things... but if you wanna read anyways feel free!! :D

There's two parts of this, one more on the fashion side but then one to two more on the mind side.

So for the fashion side... it all started with a dia setup... well, not really, but something lingering in the back of my head.

"How can I be gyaru 100% of the time?" As I still feel like I'm not there 100% of the time yet. 

Agejo is still my top substyle and I don't plan on changing it, but I also feel a few things. It doesn't feel like a costume, but still feels like mostly OTT, which can be tiring to do every day, so I only do it a couple of times a week. But also, in my head, I've got Agejo well established(of course, always things to improve on!!!) I definitely still plan to wear it ofc, and collect pieces (I have some florals coming in hehe).

There's also a less overly femme side to me I don't share often, which is just... I wear a lot of PJs and sweats, and tracksuits, I always thought if there was a way for me to establish my look when I'm not in my OTT agejo, I'll feel more connected with Gal. Then... I saw it... a Dia Setup... it was beautiful. Not the typical tsuyome look, but I thought it was, but then talking with Elin I realized hm... maybe I have the wrong substyle in mind here. And then I went on GalRevo and looked through magazines, and I was really resonating with the vibe of Soul Sister, and how they wear the damn tracksuits!! Oraora!!! I was like this... this is my key to looking gal in a more casual way... tracksuits in an oraora vibe 

DO NOT WORRY! I DID NOT BUY THE DIA SET. I decided instead to thrift a few items and see how the vibe would work. I will say, if you wear a tracksuit but do nothing else, you real like... bloke culture... lmao... so don't forget the hair make and nails. I'm hoping to put together my first real official co*de for bingo on Saturday, I don't think my circle lenses will be here in time, but I might put on my color contacts I got from my eye session. I think I'd defintely get a dia setup one day... but they're expensive. And my god are the setups from soul sister hard to find... I did find some more modern brands too, but they're like kyaba dresses, expensive. I think with oraora it's also easier to thrift vs agejo, but I have to not buy a bajillion tracksuits!! I was talking with Marissa today about adding some gold decals, and she sent over a black queen setup that had such a good vibe... may try to figure out how to commission some gold iron ons to say like "gal is life" or smth lol...

Now... fashion aside, the more impactful shit was the mind side of it. 

First, you should all head over to galdatalabs and subscribe for the gal data presses. 

I still need to read #1 and #2, but I read #3 and it was just... ugh such a GREAT read. I really love love LOVE hearing from gyaru and gyaruo about their inspirations, their motiviation, their lives!!!!!!!!!! That's why I love blogging. I really resonated with the quote of 

"True gyaru don't perform for the masses. They simply live their truth so completely that their authenticity is unmistakable." 

AH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have had conversations with other gyaru about you can kind of pick up when someone is more of a "influencer" mode vs a "living the dream" mode. OFC, nothing wrong with making money, but ahh!!! It feels so much more genuine interacting with gals just sharing their lives, ya know? I joined the online community myself to meet gals, I've just been living life... posting about my thoughts on things... if I ever come off a bit too Dis-ingenuine pls tell me lmao... 

I think this also is important for baby gals to know, because I see a lot of "do you guys think I can do this..." I DONT CARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DO WHAT YOU WANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now if it's a friend asking for crit I will give it but stop asking for gals to pat you on the back!!!!!! Just go crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

While also trying to find the link for the galdatalabs I also found... even more gal data labs... oh my god this is so exciting more to read!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A Mid blog realization!!! I got entranced in this post right here and I wanted to speak on my thoughts after reading it:

I will say I myself have been heavily focused on the aesthetics of my gyaru looks in order to make it look perfect, but there is also an importance to understand the meaning behind gyaru and to truly be in the community. Once again I point at the "if you are becoming a gyaru for clout gtfo" board. There's such a community here, and I have been slowly chatting with more and more gyaru and just... making friends. At the end of the day, we're all just people, and we all have our struggles, if we come together life is good, ya know? 

Which leads to the final point. The Egg Afficiando themself Brilliant Nothing posted on reddit today a guide on how folks can get started in gyaru from their experience, along with Media to look into. I of course, took note of this. Also shoutout to Brilliant Nothing for helping me with an Egg question because I am like ... not very into Egg as much as one probably should be lol... I will get there.

One of the reading recommendations was No Longer Human by Osamu Dazai. I instantly went and bought the e-book because I was like "oh shit... there's a character named after him in bungo... ok cool I'll start here.". I sped read that shit in like 2 hours today. My god. It was a great read but also very depressing. I oddly resonated a lot with being seen as the "jester" or "clown" and making people laugh. There are rarely times where I have a serious vibe or am just... calm vibes and I've had some people worry. Also just the feeling of not fitting into society. Ever since I moved schools in second grade I changed my life's projection from being a popular kid into the weird kid people were nice to, but would talk shit behind her back. I don't remember my schooling days fondly. And it was just... a reminder that people out there struggle, and understanding a lot of gyaru were outcast, and it wasn't a fun and popular thing. It was people coming together and understanding the struggles of being outcasts together. I get... kind of emotional thinking about it honestly. 

Being an outcast can be super lonely. I dealt with a situation where I got outcast last year from a friend group, and it hurt. Even looking back at middle school where the friends I tried so hard to make decided one day they didn't want to be my friend and told everyone to stop talking to me, it hurt a lot, I felt in a way, similar to Yozo. As I've grown up, I always have a soft spot and understanding for people I see who have been outcast in their own way, because I understand their pain. I know everyone says "I befriended the person who has no friends and found out why" but there are also just people who just are outcast for a reason they cannot control, may it be something they were born with, the environment they grew up in and they rebelled against the expectations and are now trying to find friends as an adult, or literally anything else. I always have experienced the urge for a community outside of a gyaru specific sense, but I get it, I really do, but this was just really eye opening and just reminded me, it's not always the look, its understanding the mindset of you are an outsider, and you are in a community to support others who are outsiders too.

Gosh! Got a little emotional typing that one out. I am definitely going to be trying this "three month plan" to help develop my ora ora side, but also I have plenty of ageha mags to read too, so I can work on my agejo side further. Ah... I need to drink some water and clean up before bingo!!!

Tomorrow... SELF TANNING! 

3/26 - I actually went to the eye doc chat

It’s a miracle everyone!! I went to the eye doctor!!!!!! (Loud cheering).

I’ve joked about it a lot when it comes to getting circle lenses, I have to actually get an appointment for contact lens prescription first, and a glasses prescription!! I have been needing to for awhile since my last pair broke… but I got so caught up in other things I kept putting it off.

However!! My roommate EJ went and got an eye assessment and told me there was a place at the mall I could go to, and so I said well… why not!

So I actually had it scheduled for the 30th, but I ended up having to reschedule it earlier because they only do contact lens stuff on Mondays and Tuesdays, so I went yesterday!! 

It was a pretty simple eye exam, they measured things, and checked my vision. My eyes actually aren’t super bad, so when it comes to lenses they had me put on some non prescription ones but also assigned me some prescription ones to help see a bit better. I told the doc I was interested in color lens and he was excited to have me try out other colors! I did green, hazel, and purple. The hazel is the most jarring, and you really can’t tell the difference with the others. 

Blogging on my phone so no photos LMAO… but it’s all good. So I’m basically just playing around with getting comfy in these… but I’m joining the circle lenses club soon I hope 💪💪

3/20 - It was not a normal Wednesday after all!

Chat, I got bamboozled yesterday. I knew I would've blogged this code, but it would've been "hehe my friend and are wearing butterfly things today!!!!" EJ and I had discussed this last week, as when I tried on one of my Kyaba dresses EJ said "We should do something spring-y I have a butterfly top!!" and I was like "I HAVE A BUTTERFLY DRESS!!!" and so, thus the code!

It's pretty simple, I realized I didn't have good hair accessories but used my floral one. I def need to get into making more bows again. For my hair, I was really inspired by Cindy and Leath!!! I have to hold off on prisilas for awhile but I wanted to go big for tonight to make up for the sample code.

I also wore heels but I had a reaaally bad blister so I changed into my platform crocs lol... but this time I remembered nails!

I am trying to take more pictures of the looks EJ and I do, once we properly move in and decorate in the next couple months I want to set up a perfect picture taking spot.

While I was getting ready, EJ mentioned she had to go out with Kelsey to get some birthday things, and I literally did not think anything of it. 1) My birthday was on Sunday and I didn't plan anything, and 2) I figured sometimes corporate birthdays were a thing. When she got back I asked about it and she was like "Oh yeah we got Michelle some stuff." and I literally believed it. Like I was more concerned on if I met Michelle (I have she is wonderful).

So, then we walked to Karaoke, and as we got there I saw my friend Bobby outside, and he RAN IN and shut the door behind him, I thought he was being a jokester and I was like "Bobby!!! What!!!!" and then I walked in and everyone was like HAPPY BRITHDAY AND I WAS LIKE

Literally Tails meme'd it. I literally had a fucking surprise birthday party on a karaoke Wednesday. Holy shit. And so many of the non-Wednesday regulars were there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And our new friend I told to come came too!!! I was SO SHOCKED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They all sang happy birthday and I got so many gifts and cake and I was like OMG.... I felt so loved. I made sure to take a picture with as many of the friends, but some did not join in as they couldn't make it in time/did not want to be in the picture. But I felt so loved.

I also found out Jordan tried inviting my parents LMAOOOOOOOO I think if they were there I would've been SHOCKED but it's ok, they are not late night ppl and I see them all the time LMAOOO everyone really just wants to hear my mom sing (me too)

I just felt... really happy. I don't have a gyarusa, but having karaoke as my third space and an unofficial karaoke club of some sorts is so nice. Karaoke has helped me a lot mentally this past year, there was a time I felt unwanted and discarded and these people showed me love, compassion, and community. Seriously, I cannot thank them enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They also were soooo supportive of when I started wearing my codes out more!!! These divas for REAL

Also found out EJ actually went with Jordan to get me a cake and LIED and EJ was shocked and how I didn't get suspicious at all... damn it isn't even Michelles birthday. I'm going to go ask her next time I see her and get her a gift now lol.

And then... some of us went to Lucky Enough, and of course... finished the night with the best chicken nuggets.

I am now hungover a bit, but this Saturday I'm going to Zenkaikon!!! Yippiee!!!!!! 

 

3/17 - The weekend of florals + B I N G O...

 Hi Chat!! I honestly wanted to blog about this weekend and there's going to be a lot of blabbing about bingo and casinos at the end, but I can also talk about the floral fits I wore this weekend!

I hadn't worn my florals in a bit, and I had lunch plans with my friend Dab on Saturday, so I put together a quick and a bit more simple outfit. I have been experimenting with lace front wigs as I am too lazy to dye my hair... it seems this color is a hit! I really liked it, it's giving Iori from idolmaster (I'm not super duper into it but I do like her design lol). I already bought some dye to re-blonde myself for summer, but I might try this color again in the future. 

Lace fronts are painful and I'm still very new to them, but I definitely want to try to make them work more. Once we are properly moved in I want to get more into wig styling. 

This ma*rs set is super cute, but the white part is sheet so it comes off more light pink, and I realized I don't have a lot of like light colored leg things... but I was like... we are going to lunch. I also used some accessories I diyed a coupled a months ago. I was going to wear the hat but it actually is a little small on my head.... LMAOOOOOO. So I may buy a new hat with a wider circumference so I can wear one. 

We got indian food up in cambridge!! It was good. I am really enjoying doing 1 on 1 catchups with my friends I haven't seen awhile. I love group settings but a 1 on 1 catchup is so good, I love just being able to listen to one person and not risk the conversation getting interrupted LMAOOOOO. Both Dab and my other friend Dani have inspired me to try to get back into going to cons more, which was the opposite of my plans this year lmao but I also started playing Fire Emblem Three Houses and have 4 outfits I want to wear already (and 1 I've worn and want to modify lol)

Once I got home, I met one of my neighbors as he was hosting a yard party and he invited me! I didn't take pictures but I changed and took off my wig and put on my grookey onesie lol. 

Then, I changed into my other floral setup and put on my prisila wigs (which I really need to pause on because I have a small bald spot now). My friend Jordan and I met up with some friends at a mexican joint for dinner and then we saw a local production of Something Rotten!! Our friend Amanda was in it. It was very cheesy but all of the actors were super talented. Shakespeare if you're reading this somehow you were great and looked amazing and I was like wow. Amazing. 

This setup might benefit from like a waist belt... but I didn't have any. The hairbows looked a LOT better in the pigtail format. Big bow on flat hair looks a bit off tbh. Also my nails fell off and I was not putting on another set!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I might consider getting acrylic nails or gel nails again. 

At some point it turned midnight so it was officially the 16th, which was my 27th birthday!!! Yay!! We got back late and I passed out and prepared to go out for my birthday festivities :)

Ok so none of this stuff from here is directly gal related. If you have a gambling addiction I would click off now! I talk a lot about Bingo here LOL

For my birthday this year, I didn't really have any ideas of what I wanted to do. This month has been crazy. This year has been crazy it's only March. Last Sunday I went to bingo and my friend Kayla asked if I wanted to go to Foxwoods for bingo for my birthday and I was like... you know what that is so fun. On the 16th there was a special bingo with $2025 USD payouts for normal games, and special games had other things. 

Ok, so with Foxwoods, you can buy paper sheets, but also tablets. You cannot fuck up bingo on the tablet, but you basically have to pay for two tablet packages to get one. I don't get it, but I did it because many people had told me to get it. It's really simple, you just press the ball when it comes up and it auto marks, and it tells you when you have a bingo and you need to call it. It also helps to check if you missed any numbers on the paper!!! I bought the largest package on both the paper and tablet... it was 184 dollars.................... Wowie... but for the potential winnings, it made sense. There are cheaper packages but you don't play all the games if you do that. I think we actually didn't get 1 of the games but it was like 10 bucks so we bought it as they walked around before it started and I got a few extra ones.

there were FOURTY TWO GAMES IN TOTAL... We didn't do warmups so we only played 32. Doors open 4 hours in advance and we were not doing that. 

Something important to note, you also get to see the next ball before it's called, but you can't call bingo until it's called.

Compared to the local dive bars I play at, this is much more intense. Much more quiet, not enough time to even celebrate a win or just chat. Just like 4 hours of straight bingo. It was HEAVEN. I was happy to go even if I didn't win.

.. BUT I DID. HOLY SHIT CHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm surprised I didn't die. I wasn't even paying attention but realized I was two away on a tablet... then 1... then the ball I needed showed up as the next ball and I said "Kayla... cover your ears.". And I do a huge Bingo yell, but I toned it down a TINY bit for this event, but I still made some people jump. You basically yell bingo loud so they can hear you and lift up the paper or tablet you won on. 2025 dollars before taxes... and NO ONE ELSE HAD GOTTEN A BINGO SO I DIDNT HAVE TO SPLIT THE POT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

However that does mean I have to pay taxes since it's more then 1200 in one game. (I could be wrong but it's like if you win more than 1200 in one game you have to report it.) Luckily I had taxes taken out right there and I was able to get 1500 and a tax form I now have to keep until 2026 tax season LMAOOOOOOOOO. 

It was like super exciting, I was shaking so bad, and a lot of people clapped for me!! Kayla told them it was my birthday and they were like omg happy birthday!! I fucking did a bow to everyone like a silly guy I was like LAK:LDSK:AS:LGDJA:LGJDSG:LSAJFD... and then I didn't win any more bingo. But honestly... even if I hadn't won I'd be happy to just be there.

Overall thoughts: Very very fun. Will make this a reoccurring trip on a not so frequent basis. I also want to get more friends to come with me just once!!!

I don't talk about my gambling addiction a lot, but I definitely have a slight gambling addiction when it comes to slot machines and gachas, so I tend to not put myself near them. We did stop at them after but I went in there like "Ok, I will lose all this money but if I end up getting a good payout i'll make myself stop" I did not get a good payout lol. Bingo is different because it's the urge to daub the paper, and its like oddly calming. Casinos can be dangerous so I don't go too too often, but if I go with some friends who can steer my straight to bingo, it'll be OK! :D

I got a free sundae for my birthday... :) After this we did some slots and I lost money (do not. do slots. ever.) and then we went home! I got dressed up in a dress for karaoke and drinks with friends, but totally forgot to take good pics...................................................................... whoops.

Anyways, onto the new week! I might not blog until next week, I have zenkaikon!!! It won't rlly be a gal blog but it's my blog I do what I want lol.

3/13 - the mental struggle to stay in gal (which I guess isn’t hard)

 I really don’t have a lot this week chat. Saturday I should be dressing up and Sunday is a special birthday bingo! But this week I woke up starting Monday in extreme exhaustion, and then have been working on my apartment moving shenanigans which I am further behind than I’d like to be.

But today’s blog is a little vulnerable kind of blog. The fear of moving on from gal. Don’t worry! I won’t, I plan to keep this going, but I have this issue where I tend to hyperfocus on one big thing and throw myself at it while not focusing on other things. I’ve picked up a lot of my interests change depending on a shift in mental health cycle, and I went through a really rough cycle back in 2024, and it’s shifted recently which I won’t go into detail but… therapy is helping me process it.

For gal though, it’s kind of smart with how big my closet has gotten, I don’t need to feel pressure to spend money, I just have to keep pushing myself to wear the clothes. I think with mental health and physical exhaustion it has been hard, but I am hoping rest and a good therapy session next week will get me back into the proper swing of things.

Now you might wonder… Brenna what is the new focus? It might just be getting into cosplay more again, while also wearing gal out with friends. I have recently picked up fire emblem heroes for the 1000th time and I also decided to pick up three houses. They have green lesbians in that game… I need to wife Rhea… are you KIDDING?? And I want to cosplay these lovely ladies…

 I actually was into and still kind of am into cosplay these days, but I was more into going into cons and socializing until … that event last year … but my friends Dev and Gary have helped me fall back in love with them more… I’m going to a con next week!! And with EJ and I creating a craft room, I am so excited at the idea of making cosplays again. I think I’ve repressed the thought that I could wear cool costumes and make cool things… I really want to, there is such a joy in the creation of things… 

I def will still be a gal, but I think maybe this shift will help me not give into the urge to buy scalped pieces and wear what I have. I will probably try to wear gal to a con once in awhile… but maybe that just turns into the casual outfits.

All I can hope is all goes well in life!! 

3/10 - The GGxGalz Set

Hiii chat! I've decided i'm calling you all chat now... even though I am not a streamer lol. Today I was brought over with extreme fatigue and I ended up taking the day off and I laid down for a few hours, and I'm going to be cancelling a lot of plans this evening so I can rest tonight. 

To keep myself not bed rotting, I'm taking advantage of I have something to blog about!! The GGxGalz set that recently came out! This has been on my radar for awhile so I was very excited!! I wanted to actually take it out for a wear before I blogged it and I was able to on Saturday! 

I also plan on attempting to wash this later this week with some other gal items, so I will make an update on how it washes.

I also want to before I go in, recc you also read Cindy's blog on this for another insight! We all have different thoughts and Cindy brought up some great points I kept in mind when wearing mine out for the first time!!!

For ordering, it was on Etsy which was pretty straightforward, and with the coupon code INSTAXGALZ I got 15% off so I only paid 63.75 USD. FYI this is not a code I make any money off it was just in the caption of the insta post I saw. I actually was hanging onto being awake and had to call my friend Dev to keep me awake to order it LOL, and then the page didn't work for a minute and I was like omg... did it sell out? But I was wrong and its all good. I was also surprised at the price but not in like a "wow this is expensive", I think this reasonably prices compared to MA*RS retail, which this piece is very similar to the good ol' days of Agejo MA*RS....

It's a miracle to find a ma*rs setup for that price lol. I will note I talked with @himemancer on instagram and learned international shipping is expensive!!! I live in the United States so shipping was free for me, but for any intl gals, this is very important to note.

OK, So I made a mistake when ordering this, which is I did not take updated measurements of myself and I ordered a size medium top and skirt, but this was nothing on the store, I just was like "I think I'm this" and turns out I was wrong! But, the only issue was the skirt, if you order the skirt too big, it slides down a bit awkwardly. I think if there's another set in the future, I'll definitely do a size small.  

My order also came with some cute stickers and a shopping bag I def will use to decorate my apartment with!!

The print itself is really nice, and I love a good black colorway. I know there was a pink version of the print, but I think that would need potentially some black lace where the pink lace is, too much pink can be a struggle to coordinate.

Once I put together a temporary solution for the skirt, I was able to wear it with no issue. The top itself was interesting as the way the cups are are much different from other cups. I think with this set as well as a lot of agejo pieces, you want to wear a cute pushup bra with it. I have a slip dress from ma*rs that has an awkward gab between the cups that I realized looks more flattering with a pushup bra. I mean... it even says it on the caption on insta it's meant for a bra to show lol. 

The other thing is the caption of the post also noted you can customize the set to your own style!! Which I loved the idea of. As a gyaru with a lot of setups... setups are easy mode, but it's fun to try to make it your own.  I went ahead and styled it with my heart necklace + belt combo, a jacket from mars, and some tights and a bow from ma*rs + some plain black heels. When a setup is mostly black, it is nice to keep black as the primary color and use the pinks as a pop of pink imo. I also was happy that the colorways of the pinks in this setup matched a lot of my ma*rs items!! I was actually going to wear my pearl necklace from ma*rs but I realized it was still at my parents lol...

Wearing it wasn't bad, but there was one thing I was warned of in Cindy's blog. The ruffle hem has a weird plastic wiring to help keep the shape, and though mine wasn't sticking out by an inch, I had some parts of it poke out and thanks to my purse, I kept accidentally shoving a little plastic bit into my thigh. YEOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But besides that, no complaints on my end.

Overall... I like it! I'm really happy that Gia made this setup, I love Agejo and this just screamed Agejo. I am definitely going to be wearing this a lot more in the future for sure, and I can't wait to figure out more ways to style it! I hope in the future the plastic tubing isn't an issue, I would definitely be interested to see this in a pink colorway in the future w/ black lace! I think this is a really nice alternative to buying scalped mars sets lol.

Once I wash it and dry it, I will probably make a smaller blog to note if I see any wear, but as many clothes do... they do wear and tear lol. 
 

3/9 - help. I have overexerted myself this week

Hello chat… I figured it might be good to just document my past week since moving into my apartment, also my attempts to gal out more! This will be a long one. I have to type this all on my phone because I did not bring any of my laptops back to my apartment lmao…

I am trying to do this new thing where I don’t give a lot of context before I get to the point too, so maybe I won’t ramble as much hehe

Mondayyyyy - I am working from my parents still, lots of working and packing! I drove back in the late afternoon, my roomie and I got some stuff she left at her friends place, and then I went to Monday night Bingo!! It is now only a 15 min drive vs a 30, I got to see many friends, and won 0 money… lol

Tuesday - work, move, bed rot… tried replicating Cindy’s hair… nothing too crazy but god was it about to be

Wednesday - KARAOKE DAY!!!!!! The first karaoke Wednesday since we moved in. I was so excited to put on some genuine agejo again. I wore my golds infinity dress which is suuuper cute hehe…

It was rlly nice… we ended up walking which wasn’t too bad except for the win and walking down a VERY VERY steep hill… Jesus. We sang and then we got some food, and our friend Jordan drove us back. Thank you Jordan… that’s my older brother fr

Thursday - the second time I went to the office this year!! We don’t go in often but one of our team members was doing a presentation so we went. I did some make and wore my emiria wiz tweed set and realized I am not a size medium… lol after that we got back and I ended up building the closet which is in my last blog post!!!! And then I changed into some gal and went to bingo and won 150!! This was the first time I came in gal to bingo and so many people were so nice!! They said I looked like an anime doll and you know what…? Close enough.

I also did not wear nails… I am seriously considering getting a more permanent solution because I just could not be arsed to out on my press ons… but also couldn’t even find them LMAOOO… I have a collection I need to organize.

I also won bingo on the final game which was the full card game!! I love bingo bc daubing the paper is so satisfying and I use glitter daubers… hehe it was intense and I told my friend Kayla “oh I am not gonna win” and then I did and I let out a blood curdling yell. I am known at bingo for fucking YELLING… I mean you gotta let them know but also sorry to everyone’s ears.

Friday!!!!! Was my mom’s bday!!! And my ggxgalz set came in!! I will make a separate post talking about that set in more detail so keep an eye out!!!! I went to live music w my mom and dad, and then drove to karaoke to wait out my roomie getting out of work bc I promised I’d drive them home bc they got out LAAATE. I then remembered why I don’t go out on Friday nights to karaoke. So many people. I got overstimulated and sat in my car for 20 mins lol.

Saturday - dear lord. This was the most intense day. First Jordan came and helped us dispose of some spare mattresses we were left with, and then my roomie EJ and I went to IKEA!!!!! A very smooth ikea trip!!!! Oddly actually. Usually you go to ikea and you’re like I’m gonna get this item and you get to the floor where you pick out all the furniture and it’s always sold out. We got like 5 big things and they were all there… crazy. We also got lunch before we drove to ikea at Den Den cafe Asiana and I got tonkatsu… love tonkatsu

And THEN we went out!!! I wore my ggxgalz set and we went to karaoke… a small little cocktail place with our friend Teddy… and then our neighbors invited us to their get together! It is so nice we are meeting ppl .. my friend Sam actually knows our neighbors so she introduced us tysm Sam you are a real one!! I was so tired we ended up not going dancing like we wanted to. I didn’t realize yet how tired I was.

And then… today… Sunday…

Simple code for today! More like just… clothes tbh

Today was really nice. I reached out to my friend Dani who I haven’t talked to in a long time and we met up for lunch, and we rarely hang out one on one. We ended up getting tea after lunch and we sat and talked a lot and caught each other up on life. At one point they said “I missed talking to you Brenna!” And I almost cried lol because I missed talking to them too!! I have another friend in Boston Dab I am planning on making plans with too because both of them are so lovely and I need to make plans to hang out with them more… they are not far from me. I didn’t take any photos I was just really enjoying spending time with my friend today. I don’t really remember to take photos a lot unless it’s selfies, I love just enjoying the moments I’m having recently!

I was driving back and I called my mom and said I wasn’t stopping by and then as I drove home listening to music… I was like hm what should I do to fill my cup? Shopping? No I have too many things and nothing I’m really looking for anymore.., and then it hit me.

There is bingo on Sundays.

Yup. I went to bingo again LMAOO!! I went to a spot I’ve never been to before but my friend Kayla highly recc’d. She saved me a seat and we played bingo and I won 250 dollars!!!!!!!!! I screamed louder than Thursday lol… it was great. I realized though I was so tired… I drank two Red Bulls and felt so… tired.

The sticker didn't work but it was this image of oppenheimer LOL 

Like that, I felt like that image of oppie…. Oppie… yup. 

I came back this evening and organized a bit more (put clothes away, hung up some stuff, moved stuff to the office… and now I am blogging.

Mentally, this week was amazing I feel like a lot of stuff I won’t go into detail with has (mostly) closed and a new chapter is beginning. Today especially… was good for me.

I am shocked my eyelashes are alive. I am not used to wearing gal so much but I want to work on it more this year.

With that, I want to share a screenshot I took of the song that resonated the most with me today. the lyrics just mean a lot to me!! It’s a beautiful song 

 

3/7 - New Closet and Some Yap

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A new blog post. amazing. I don't have many pictures... my blogs are mostly text based lmaooooo but it's all good.

Today I wanted to blog about my closet in further detail!!! I've shared it on insta and the reddit, but I like using my blog for the huuuuge rambles. Below is a picture of how it's currently looking!!

 It is really nice!! My room has a walk in closet, but I am repurposing it as my office space since I work from home, so I am using the dresser the previous tenant left for non gal clothes, and then I bought myself this closet to assemble for gal clothes!! At my parents house, I had two closets and a rack I used, so it's nice to get all the pieces into one place. It also fits perfectly between my door to my office and the door I use to leave, and once I get my proper bed in there, there will still be space to walk!!! 😁

I was so thankful my friend Jordan carried the box of all the pieces up the stairs, I have no arm strength so this would have been a hard time for me to get up myself. I spent my afternoon working on building it and the instructions were pretty clear! I got it all built in about 40 minutes! 

And then it came to putting my clothes on it... this is probably about 90% of my items in the picture above. Some items require hangers (I ran out) or the item is still packed and I still have to unpack a lot of boxes. I did look at this and realize 1) people are going to tell me to keep my doors locked and 2) wow the shopping addiction got bad!!

I went back to my personal instagram archive to figure out how long i've been collecting gal pieces, I started in late 2021 / early 2022 ! I only got more into wearing everything I collected in late 2023, but really revved up in 2024. I also bought a lot in 2024. Which comes to me answering some questions I predict the blog readers might have? 1) How did you do it and 2) What do you even do to afford it all

1) During the second half of 2024 I moved back with my parents due to the building management at my last apartment sending out non-renewals and doing mass renovations which caused a lot of issues since I work from home. I helped pay towards living expenses but it was way cheaper than what I was paying in rent (1900ish including rent+utilities vs 500 a month).

Also... credit card debt which I am working really hard to pay off

2) I work in IT consulting! It's a bit confusing to explain the exact details of what I do, but basically just doing security assessments for clients and some compliance work as well. I also spend most of my spare money towards my closet (along with trinkets....). 

However... I realize looking at my closet I really need to slow down on my spending. My personal non gal goal for 2025 is to pay off all my credit card debt and return to using it as a "spend it and pay it off" type of deal. With moving back out, I'm back to paying rent and utilities (at the mercy of the monopoly that is RI energy...) so I have to just... stop spending so much. I think the insane scalped prices of ma*rs being timed with this part of my life is good! I also honestly have so many of my favorite pieces, I only have two dream dream dream isos from MA*RS s that will be insane to find, and two Robe de Fleurs dresses I need to like... goal set to let myself buy... but I need to stop buying things... to buy things. lol. I think just buying clothes to feel something hasn't been good for me, and I need to do something else... like eat Tajin straight from the bottle.

ANYWAYS!! It's friday morning and I've gotta start my work day today!! Have a great day readers.

3/3 - I am an idiot when it comes to depop (good ending)

 This feels like... important to make public because 1) important to cover my ass in the case this seller makes a callout (i doubt it) and 2) to talk about lessons learned from depop because I can be stupid and too nice! I'm not going to bring up the sellers name bc 1) the shop no longer exists, and 2) I don't want to send them any hate, something could've happened who knows.

The TLDR: Brenna was way to patient when it comes to depop and almost lost a lot of money over my DREAM DREAM DREAM DISO. But I got my money back.

The more detailed version... 

I was trying to find my dream piece on a whim for christmas, as I usually spend a stupid amount on dream pieces (the pink and white alba rosa was my 2023 xmas gift to myself). Well, I found someone selling it on depop, and I made a depop account!! I actually am herabibi on there. Yes, that is me. I reached out to the seller, I purchased the piece, and I waited for my shipping e-mail.

Well, I got it from depop saying it shipped but there was no tracking number, I figured maybe because I was purchasing from a seller in europe (based on the face I paid in euros) that it might not have one. That's wrong I've learned you need to be bitchy for a tracking number. You actually are supposed to get one in 5 days, and if you don't, go put in a ticket. 

Then it just... was a waiting game. It never came, and I checked the sellers page to see if there were new reviews because they were selling things and they had positive reviews. Then, life happened last month and I totally forgot to check, come to today and I think, hm, what happened? The seller's page didn't exist anymore. Not like I was blocked, I went on my work computer and checked and yep, it was gone. 

So I was like... can I get a refund? To which I tried on the app and the app was like "well, if it's more than 30 days and you used the depop payment, you can't.". So I decided to ... put in a ticket! 

And let me tell you, I put in tickets for our work vendors and they respond pretty fast, 24-48 hours. Elle from depop got back to me in like... 5 minutes. I was lucky because the seller never provided depop the tracking number, I was still under buyer protection. Elle let me know that in the future, I need to put in a ticket after 5 days. (I totally did admit in the e-mail I was too patient...). So the great news is: I get a refund (but since it was international not a full refund... but I only lost out on 30 bucks.

So chat... what did Brenna learn from this?

1. You are supposed to get a tracking number. 
2. You need to be ok with being pushy to get the tracking number
3. If you use depop pay you should not be patient and wait a bajillion months. (I bought this at the end of Nov... it is March lol)
4. Depop has probably the fastest response time I've ever seen... amazing.

This also shows that we can all be dumb. I can be dumb! I'm so used to ebay... mercari jp... xianyu... that i'm surprised it was depop I was stupid on. But, I can't beat myself up over it. 

And when it comes to the dream dream dream diso... maybe that just means i'll find it somewhere else from a legit seller. Preferrably... a decent price (a girl can dream if anyone on mercari jp tries to sell it they're gonna list it for 80000000000000000000 yen at this point).